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Supporting Survivors Beyond the Statistics: A Call to Action This 16 Days of Activism

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Each year, the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence reminds the world that violence against women and girls is not just a crisis it is a daily reality for millions ^[1]. Reports, data sheets, and global indicators help us understand the magnitude, but behind every statistic is a living, breathing person whose life has been altered by harm. This year, as we observe the campaign, it is crucial that we shift our collective attention from the numbers to the humans behind them. True progress lies in supporting survivors beyond the statistics.

Too often, survivors are reduced to percentages “1 in 3,” “1 in 5,” “35% globally” ^[2]. While these numbers capture attention, they do not capture the emotional, physical, and economic aftermath that survivors carry. They do not speak to the silence, the stigma, the fear of seeking help, or the systemic barriers that make healing harder than the violence itself. Ending gender-based violence requires more than awareness. It demands empathy, survivor-centered systems, and long-term support ^[3].

Supporting survivors goes far beyond responding to incidents; it means creating environments where they are believed, protected, and empowered to rebuild. It means ensuring access to justice, psychosocial care, healthcare, safe spaces, and economic opportunities ^[5]. It also means challenging harmful gender norms, dismantling structures that enable violence, and educating communities to recognize and prevent abuse before it happens.

At the Centre for Family Health Initiative (CFHI), this survivor-centered approach is at the heart of our work. Through our gender norms interventions, community dialogues, capacity-building programs, and youth engagement initiatives, CFHI champions the rights, dignity, and well-being of women, girls, and all survivors. From preventive education to psychosocial support and referral services, we ensure that survivors are not lost in the numbers but seen, heard, and supported through their healing journey.

But CFHI cannot do this alone. Ending violence is a collective responsibility; As we mark this year’s 16 Days of Activism, we call on, communities to break the culture of silence and create safe spaces for survivors, institutions to strengthen reporting systems, legal protections, and survivor-friendly services. Parents and caregivers to model respect and equality within their homes, young people to speak up against online and offline violence and promote positive gender norms. Government and policymakers to invest in prevention, strengthen accountability, and fund survivor services, you, reading this, to challenge harmful behaviours, support survivors around you, and become an advocate for a violence-free world.

Survivors are not statisticsthey are individuals deserving of dignity, justice, and healing. As we stand together during the 16 Days of Activism, let us commit to building a society that supports survivors not just in reports but in real life, every day ^[4].

CFHI remains steadfast in its mission: promoting health, protection, and empowerment for all. Together, we can end violence one voice, one action, and one survivor supported at a time.

References

[1] UN Women. (2024). Ending Violence Against Women: Facts & Figures.
https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/facts-and-figures

[2] World Health Organization. (2021). Violence Against Women Prevalence Estimates 2018.
https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240022256

[3] UN Women. 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence Campaign.
https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism

[4] United Nations. (2024). International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women Background.
https://www.un.org/en/observances/ending-violence-against-women-day

[5] UNFPA. (2023). Gender-Based Violence: Global Overview and Response Strategies.
https://www.unfpa.org/gender-based-violence

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“NO Means NO”

Today, the simple word “No” still struggles to carry the weight it deserves. For many young people, especially girls and young women, saying “no” can come with fear, pressure, or misunderstanding. Yet, “no” should be enough. It is a complete sentence one that should be heard, respected, and never questioned. As we continue to raise awareness around gender equality and safety, understanding the true meaning of consent and personal boundaries becomes essential for building a healthy society.

Consent is more than just permission; it is about respect, autonomy, and communication. It means that every person has the right to decide what happens to their body, their time, and their emotions. Consent must be freely given, not forced, tricked, or coerced. It cannot be assumed from silence or past behaviour, and it can be withdrawn at any time. In relationships, friendships, or social settings, learning to respect a person’s “no” whether spoken or unspoken reflects maturity and integrity.

Unfortunately, the statistics around consent violations remain alarming. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), nearly one in three women globally has experienced physical or sexual violence in her lifetime, most often at the hands of an intimate partner ¹. In Nigeria, the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) reports that many incidents of sexual or domestic violence are never reported, often due to fear of stigma, shame, or disbelief ²^. These figures highlight how deeply ingrained gender norms and societal silence can make it difficult for survivors to speak out and for young people to learn what healthy respect truly looks like.

For young girls, learning to say “no” and knowing that it must be respected is an important part of personal development and self-protection. Saying “no” is valid when faced with peer pressure to engage in sexual activity, when uncomfortable with unwanted touching, or when asked to share private information or photos online. “No” is equally powerful in social and emotional spaces: refusing manipulative statements like “If you love me, you’ll do it,” or declining invitations that compromise one’s comfort or safety. Every young person must understand that their voice matters, and their boundaries define who they are.

Equally important is educating boys and young men about consent, empathy, and accountability. True respect means not only hearing “no” but also actively seeking a clear and enthusiastic “yes.” It means understanding that real strength lies in restraint, understanding, and kindness not in control or pressure. When communities, schools, and families foster open conversations about respect and consent, they equip young people with the values needed to build relationships rooted in trust and equality.

Through our gender norms interventions, CFHI empowers young people with knowledge and confidence to challenge and transform harmful gender norms (especially those that disadvantage women and girls) while protecting respect, equality and fairness. Each adolescent club activity, school campaign, and community outreach brings us closer to a society where consent is understood, respected, and upheld where “NO” truly means “NO.

Speak Wednesday is an initiative of CFHI to address issues around gender-base violence and gender-bias.

References

World Health Organization. Violence Against Women: Key Facts. WHO, 2023. Available from: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-women
National Bureau of Statistics. National Survey on Domestic and Sexual Violence in Nigeria. Abuja: NBS; 2022. Available from: https://nigerianstat.gov.ng/elibrary/read/1241055

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Safe Spaces, Safe Girls

Every girl deserves to feel safe at home, in school, online, and within her community. Yet, for many adolescent girls, safety is not always guaranteed. From bullying and harassment to harmful gender norms and abuse, too many young girls are forced to grow up in environments that threaten their confidence, education, and dreams.

Safe spaces are not just physical places; they are environments where girls can freely express themselves, learn, share experiences, and access guidance without fear of judgment or harm. They are spaces where girls’ voices are heard, their ideas are valued, and their rights are respected.

When girls feel safe, they thrive, they speak up, lead, innovate. But when fear replaces safety, silence grows and with silence comes vulnerability. According to the United Nations, https://www.un.org/en/observances/ending-violence-against-women-day one in three women worldwide experiences physical or sexual violence in her lifetime, much of which begins during adolescence. Unsafe spaces often normalize this violence, teaching young girls that their safety and dignity can be negotiated; but they cannot.

Why Safe Spaces Matter

Safe spaces help girls:

Build self-esteem and confidence through open conversations and mentorship.
Access accurate health information, including sexual and reproductive health education.
Develop leadership skills that empower them to challenge stereotypes and discrimination.
Find support networks to overcome trauma, bullying, and gender-based violence.

Beyond protection from physical harm, girls also need safety in the digital world; shielding them from cyberbullying, online exploitation, and exposure to harmful content. As the digital world becomes a second home for adolescents, creating safe online communities is just as important as protecting physical spaces.

Parents, guardians, teachers, and instructors play a vital role in shaping the safety and confidence of young girls. They must create nurturing environments that make girls feel protected, valued, and always heard.

Adults should provide constant reassurance, letting girls know they are not alone in their challenges. They should encourage them to brace up against the trials of adolescence, reminding them that every challenge is part of growth. Girls should be motivated to stay focused on their goals, believe in their dreams, and never let temporary setbacks define their worth.

When caregivers listen with empathy and guide with love, they give girls the courage to rise above fear, pressure, or self-doubt; building strong, confident women who will lead tomorrow.

Through our gender norms transformation programs, school and community outreaches, and Gender-Based Violence (GBV) prevention campaigns, CFHI continues to educate adolescents and their caregivers on creating supportive, respectful, and inclusive environments. We work to ensure that every girl has access to information, mentorship, and opportunities that build resilience and confidence.

To every adolescent girl reading this: your voice matters. You have the right to safety, respect, and dignity. Speak up when something feels wrong, support your peers, and stand for what is right even when it’s hard.

To parents, teachers, and guardians be the reason a girl feels safe. Create spaces filled with trust, understanding, and love. Encourage her to stay focused, stay brave, and never give up on her dreams.

Because when girls are safe, they are unstoppable. And when girls are unstoppable, communities thrive.

As the African proverb says, “Train a girl, and you train a nation.” This reminds us that creating safe spaces for girls is not only a moral duty but a foundation for building stronger, safer, and more prosperous communities.

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Democracy Fails Women When It Ignores Gender Violence

Democracy is more than ballots, parliaments, and courtrooms it is the everyday reality that allows every person to live with dignity and safety. When a democratic system pretends that voting and institutions alone guarantee equality while turning a blind eye to the daily threat of gender-based violence (GBV), it is failing a fundamental promise: protection for all citizens. For millions of women, the “freedoms” democracy claims to protect are hollow if public systems, laws, and practices do not prevent, punish, and deter gendered violence.

The hard numbers refuse to let us look away. Globally, roughly one in three women has experienced physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner or sexual violence by a non-partner in her lifetime a staggering indicator that violence is not an exception but a systemic condition that persists across democratic and non-democratic states alike. (World Health Organization)

Nigeria’s statistics reflect this painful truth at home. National data and large-scale studies point to around a third of women experiencing intimate partner violence (IPV), with some surveys showing 31–35% having experienced some form of IPV in recent measures. These are not abstract percentages they translate to millions of women whose bodily autonomy, mental health, economic participation and civic engagement are continuously undermined. (DHS Program)

Worse, the trendlines in some places show an alarming rise in certain forms of violence over time. Comparative analyses of regional data (for example, conflict-affected northeast Nigeria) demonstrate increases in emotional and sexual IPV between survey rounds a decade apart; a signal that crises, weak accountability, and institutional neglect worsen GBV even within states that hold elections. When democratic systems fail to protect women in times of stress, the social contract fractures. (ResearchGate)

There are three recurring failures because democracy fail in practice:

Visibility without remedy. Democracies can record crimes and produce statistics, but if police, health systems and courts do not follow through, documentation becomes an exercise in moral hygiene rather than justice. Survivors who report violence often encounter blame, delays, unsafe processes, or outright dismissal.
Law without implementation. Nigeria has laws criminalizing domestic and sexual violence, but enforcement is uneven. Where patriarchy is embedded in institutions, legal protections are toothless. Laws on paper become meaningless when budgets, training, and survivor-centered services are absent.
Public indifference normalized as “private matters.” When GBV is repeatedly framed as a private or cultural problem, democratic debate excludes the voices of survivors and diminishes the urgency required for structural change.

These failures matter because gender violence is not merely a private tragedy it is a public, democratic harm. GBV shrinks women’s political voice (fear limits public participation), undermines economic independence (injury, trauma, time away from work), and burdens health systems. Democracies that do not treat GBV as a governance and human-rights priority are sustaining inequality disguised as civility.

It’s not enough to pass new laws; democracies must transform institutions and social norms. That means guaranteeing emergency health and legal services; training and holding police and judiciary accountable; funding safe shelters; integrating GBV prevention in schools and workplaces; and centering survivors in policy design. It also means political leaders must stop treating GBV as a “women’s issue” and recognize it as a democracy and development crisis.

At the Centre for Family Health Initiative (CFHI), we approach this challenge on three complementary fronts: prevention, survivor support, and advocacy. On prevention, we run community dialogues and gender norms activities that challenge the attitudes that normalize violence and silence survivors. For survivors, CFHI facilitates safe referrals and trains Community Health Workers to provide trauma-informed first response and linkages to legal and psychosocial support. On advocacy, we engage local leaders and stakeholders to press for funded, accountable GBV services and to include GBV metrics in local governance performance reviews.

These actions are small in the face of a systemic problem, but democracy is built from local actions. When community-level institutions protect women’s rights and when civic actors demand accountability, national democracy is strengthened. CFHI’s work shows that when communities are empowered to respond and when survivors are listened to, trust grows, and that trust is the living tissue of democratic life.

A call to action

Democracy will keep failing women until citizens and leaders act as if their safety is a public good. If you read this and care about democracy, do three things today:

Speak up publicly: challenge the narrative that GBV is a “private” problem.
• Support survivors and local organizations: fund and volunteer with groups offering direct services.
• Hold institutions to account: demand transparent budgets for GBV response and regular reporting on prosecutions, service availability, and survivor outcomes.

Democracy isn’t earned through election cycles alone it is preserved by institutions and communities that protect the most vulnerable. Ignoring gender violence is not neutrality; it is complicity. Let us insist that our democracy lives up to its promise not only in rhetoric but in the daily safety and dignity of every woman.

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Closing the Gender Wealth Gap to End Violence Against Women

Economic justice is the key to safety, health, and empowerment for women worldwide. Every Wednesday, we raise our voices to challenge injustice, and today we confront one of the most entrenched roots of gender-based violence: economic inequality. The gender wealth gap isn’t just a financial statistic; it’s a silent enabler of abuse, a barrier to freedom, and a public health emergency.

Globally, women earn less than men for the same work³, own less property, have limited access to leadership⁴and fewer financial safety nets¹. This economic disparity creates a cycle of dependency that heightens exposure to violence and limits the ability to escape abusive environments. In Nigeria, for instance, the Minister of Women Affairs recently emphasized that closing the gender gap could add ₦15 trillion to the country’s GDP annually by 2025²^, underscoring the economic potential of gender equity.

These issues are persistent and global. In the EU, despite the “Women on Boards” directive aiming for 40% female representation by 2026, progress is slow. Women currently hold only 35% of non-executive roles and 21% of senior executive positions ⁴. This is despite evidence from a 2025 report showing that companies with greater gender diversity are 25% more likely to be more profitable³. In sectors like tech and finance, women continue to report being passed over for promotions, excluded from decision-making, and subjected to gender-based microaggressions, which stifles their economic advancement⁴.

Call To Action

To end violence against women, we must invest in their economic power. As outlined in a UN Women 2025 advocacy paper, closing the funding gap in programs that support survivors and prevent violence is critical¹. We call on Governments, NGOs, and private sector to collaborate on expanding access to education and vocational training, supporting women-led businesses and financial literacy programs, funding essential services for survivors, including shelters, legal aid, and healthcare, and advocating for and enforcing equal pay and robust workplace protections.

At the Centre for Family Health Initiative (CFHI), we are committed to this work. Through collaborations with partners like the Institute of Human Virology Nigeria (IHVN), Caritas Nigeria, FCT Social Development Secretariat (SDS), TY Danjuma Foundation (TYDF), and Global Philanthropy Alliance (GPA), we have empowered over 2500 women and girls with education, vocational training, business start-up kits, and financial support.

Financial inequality isn’t just unfair; it’s dangerous. It limits women’s choices, increases health risks, and perpetuates cycles of violence and poverty. Empowering women economically is not merely a matter of justice; it is the essential foundation for building safer, healthier societies for all.

Speak Wednesday is an initiative of CFHI to address issues around gender-based violence and gender bias.

References

UN Women. Closing the funding gap to end violence against women and girls [Internet]. 2025 [cited 2025 Oct 21]. Available from: https://knowledge.unwomen.org/sites/default/files/2025-06/closing-the-funding-gap-to-end-violence-against-women-and-girls-en.pdf
The Guardian Nigeria. Closing gender gap will add ₦15tr to Nigeria’s GDP by 2025 [Internet]. 2025 [cited 2025 Oct 21]. Available from: https://guardian.ng/news/closing-gender-gap-will-add-n15tr-to-nigerias-gdp-by-2025/
Women in the workplace 2025: Research and trends [Internet]. 2025 [cited 2025 Oct 21]. Available from: https://www.wellable.co/blog/women-in-the-workplace-2025-research-and-trends

IMD. Gender inequality in the workplace: Why it persists? [Internet]. 2025 [cited 2025 Oct 21]. Available from: https://www.imd.org/research-knowledge/articles/gender-inequality-in-the-workplace-why-it-persists/

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No Access, No Escape: Why Information is Critical to GBV Survival

When Sheila was nineteen and living in Lagos, the threats began. Her husband told her that if she ever disobeyed him, he would make sure she lost her job and her reputation. One night, terrified, she sent a friend a message begging for help. But she did not know where to go, which law could protect her, or who to call. Information could have saved her. Its absence trapped her.

This is the silent epidemic within gender-based violence (GBV): not only physical harm but the isolation created by ignorance. Without access to timely and accurate information, survivors are left in darkness. Information is not a luxury. It is the first line of defence and the foundation of justice.

Why Information Saves Lives

When a woman understands that violence against her is a crime, she begins to reclaim her power. When she knows where to report, what medical help to seek, and how to preserve evidence, she increases her chances of survival and justice. Without that knowledge, fear becomes her only companion.

Studies from Nigeria show that most women who experience GBV are unaware of available support. In Adamawa State, 60 percent of women knew that services existed, but fewer than 18 percent understood what those services actually offered. A 2025 study found that even educated young women often avoid post-violence health care because they do not know where to go, or they fear stigma and disbelief.

Globally, the United Nations has affirmed through multiple conventions including the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW) and UN Security Council Resolution that access to information is central to ending violence. Without it, laws, services, and resources remain out of reach.

The Barriers That Keep Survivors Silent

Survivors often do not seek help because they believe nobody will believe them. Others live far from formal services. Many lack access to the internet or even a simple phone number they can trust. Information materials are often written in legal or medical language that ordinary people cannot understand. In rural areas, the absence of community-based awareness campaigns means women do not even know that shelters or hotlines exist.

These are not personal failures. They are systemic failures of governments that under fund awareness programmes, of institutions that do not communicate in local languages, and of communities that allow silence to thrive.

What Survivors Can Do When They Need Help

Every survivor deserves a pathway to safety. Here is what that path can look like:

Seek immediate safety: If you are in danger, leave the space if possible. Go to a trusted friend, relative, neighbour, or nearby public place.
Reach out for help: Call the national GBV toll-free line: 0800 033 3333. You can also contact the organisations that provide counselling, medical referrals, and legal support.
Preserve evidence: Avoid bathing or changing clothes if you experienced physical or sexual violence. Seek medical care immediately.
Know your rights: Violence against women is a crime under the Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act, 2015. Every survivor has a right to medical treatment, legal assistance, and protection.
Document and speak. Keep copies of threatening messages or photos. Report to a the police or NAPTIP. You are not alone, and help exists.

Call to Action

Governments and institutions must treat access to information as a legal right and embed it firmly within all GBV policies and action plans. Every state should guarantee that survivors know what services exist and how to reach them. Public awareness must go beyond slogans to reach the offline majority through community radio, schools, and local languages that resonate. Survivor-friendly spaces should be standard in every police station, hospital, and local government office, where trained officers and clear contact points offer judgement-free guidance. Finally, investment in ethical data systems and public education is non-negotiable. Reliable data exposes the gaps, directs resources, and saves lives, as demonstrated by the efforts of UNFPA and Nigeria’s GBV Information Management System.

How CFHI Is Closing the Information Gap

At the Centre for Family Health Initiative (CFHI), we believe that information is power and in the fight against GBV, it is protection. CFHI leads nationwide awareness through the 16 Days of Activism, runs community and school groups that teach health, rights, and safety, and provides direct referrals for survivors to medical, psychosocial, and legal services. Our work reaches those often left behind; the woman without a phone, the girl who cannot read, the family with no internet or transport. By breaking information barriers, we give survivors a voice, a pathway, and a plan. Because when women know their rights and how to use them, violence begins to lose its power.

The Global Urgency

Across the world, violence thrives where information is weakest. For the woman in a remote village without a phone or access to the internet, silence becomes her only shelter. For the girl who cannot read, the poster on the clinic wall might as well be blank. For displaced women in camps, and for widows in informal settlements, help often feels like a rumour whispered too far away to reach. In these spaces, information is not abstract, it is survival. It is the map that leads from danger to safety, from fear to agency. Every hotline number, every awareness programme, every conversation led in a local dialect is more than communication. It is protection. It is the first step toward justice and the quiet revolution that keeps women alive.

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SPEAK WEDNESDAY ON LITERACY AS A SHIELD AGAINST GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE (GBV)

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In a crowded community classroom in Gwagwalada, Aisha sat hunched over her exercise book. She was thirty-five, a mother of four, and had never finished primary school. The day she finally read a passage out loud, she broke down in tears. For the first time, she could read a hospital form without begging for help. She could text her sister to say, “I am not safe.” That is the quiet revolution of literacy.

In Nigeria, the literacy gap tells its own story of urgency and survival. Only about 52 percent of Nigerian women aged fifteen and above are literate, compared to 70 percent of men. Adult literacy enrolment for women still hovers under 50 percent. At the same time, one in three Nigerian women has experienced physical violence since age 15, most often by intimate partners.

These statistics are not unrelated. Literacy is a shield. A literate woman can read her rights, understand legal processes, and demand justice. She is better able to secure paid work, making her less dependent on an abuser. She can read health brochures, helpline numbers, and contracts. She can mobilize her peers. Without literacy, too many Nigerian women remain silent targets, unable to navigate systems that were already stacked against them.

Research consistently shows that literacy reduces women’s vulnerability to violence. In Nigeria, scholars confirm literacy is a “preventative force” against gender-based violence This is not just theory, it is lived reality in rural villages, IDP camps, and bustling cities.

What Must Change

The global fight against GBV cannot succeed if literacy is treated as an afterthought. Governments and international partners must deliberately embed literacy into GBV prevention and response frameworks. That means funding second-chance learning for women who were forced out of school. It means designing shelters, clinics, and police stations to provide information in simple, accessible formats. It means collecting and publishing disaggregated data that shows how literacy gaps map onto vulnerability to violence.

Equally important, literacy must be framed as a cultural and social good, not just an individual skill. Traditional leaders, faith communities, and grassroots organizers across Nigeria and beyond can reshape norms so that women’s literacy is understood as dignity itself.

A Call to Action

This agenda is at the heart of Sustainable Development Goal 4 (Quality Education) and Goal 5 (Gender Equality). But it also strengthens progress on Goal 16 (Peace, Justice, and Strong Institutions) because literate women are better positioned to engage with governance and justice systems. Literacy is not a side project; it is a front-line intervention in the fight against gender inequality and violence.

When women can read, they resist silence, dependency, and abuse. They resist systems designed to keep them small. They resist by teaching their daughters to read and by demanding that their communities do better.

The stories may begin in Gwagwalada, but the message is universal: when she can read, she can resist. Literacy is liberation. Literacy is justice.

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References
UNESCO: Female literacy rate in Nigeria (unesco.org)
NBS: Literacy statistics for women and men in Nigeria (nigerianstat.gov.ng)
UNFPA: GBV prevalence in Nigeria (nigeria.unfpa.org)
PMC: Literacy and domestic violence reduction (pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov)
ResearchGate: Literacy as prevention of GBV in Nigeria (researchgate.net)

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SPEAK WEDNESDAY ON PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECTS OF GBV ON MOTHER-INFANT ATTACHMENT

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She held her baby with trembling hands. Not from fear of motherhood, but from fear of a man. A man she once trusted. A man who turned her body into a battlefield.
This is not fiction. This is the everyday, hushed reality of thousands of Nigerian women living with the trauma of gender-based violence (GBV) and the invisible heartbreak it causes their children before they even learn how to speak.

When Violence Enters the Womb
In many Nigerian cultures, a pregnant woman is treated with care and reverence. But behind closed doors, some women are being battered while their unborn babies kick helplessly in the womb. According to the World Health Organization, 1 in 3 women globally experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime and many of them are pregnant when it happens.
What happens when a baby’s first experience of the world is stress? What happens when a mother carries both her child and her trauma?
Research shows that when a pregnant woman is abused, her body floods with stress hormones like cortisol. These chemicals don’t stay with her, they cross the placenta and reach the baby, altering the way the child’s brain develops. That child may be born with a heightened sensitivity to stress, and a brain wired for fear.

The Silent Wound: Attachment and Survival
In healthy conditions, a mother and her infant develop a secure attachment, a bond of trust and comfort that shapes the child’s emotional foundation for life. But when a mother is surviving GBV, her own emotional resources are depleted. She may be physically present but emotionally unreachable. She’s in survival mode.
This isn’t a question of love. These mothers love their babies with every fibre of their being. But trauma changes the brain. A woman dealing with Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or depression caused by abuse may struggle to read her baby’s cues. She might flinch at a cry. She might freeze during breastfeeding. Her touch may lack the warmth she desperately wants to give.
This emotional disconnect is called disrupted attachment, and it’s not the mother’s fault. It’s the consequence of living in fear. UNICEF link GBV to insecure mother-infant attachments, which increase the risk of behavioural problems, anxiety, and poor emotional regulation in children.

Breaking the Silence, Healing the Bond
This is not just a woman’s issue. This is a society issue. A society where women are unsafe is a society where childhoods are fractured before they begin. It is time to protect mothers so they can nurture, not just survive.

What We Must Do:
• Create safe reporting systems for pregnant women and mothers experiencing GBV.
• Train healthcare workers to screen for abuse during prenatal visits and provide trauma-informed care.
• Educate communities to stop victim-blaming and start protecting.
• Support shelters and psychosocial support services for survivors and their children.
• Involve men. This is not a woman’s fight alone. The cycle can’t break without male accountability.
Break the silence. Protect the mother. Save the child.
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References
• WHO: Violence Against Women
• APA: How Maternal Stress Affects Babies
• UNICEF: Why Secure Attachment Matters

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SPEAK WEDNESDAY ON RAISING VOICES, NOT VICTIMS: YOUTH LED ACTION AGAINST GENDER BIAS

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Gender bias is not an abstract issue. It is lived. It is spoken. It is enforced in homes, schools, workplaces, and policies. It silences girls. It restricts women. It excuses harm. And too often, it goes unchallenged.
But young people are challenging it. Boldly. Locally. Collectively.
Across communities, youth are stepping forward to lead work that others have delayed for too long. They are not waiting for perfect systems. They are building new ones. With peer education, advocacy, safe spaces, campaigns, and community engagement, they are confronting bias at its roots.

What Does Youth Led Action Look Like?
It looks like CFHI’s student-led D.R.E.A.M.S Clubs in JSS Jiwa, Kabusa, and Gosa, where adolescent girls learn about sexual and reproductive health, build confidence, and develop soft skills. Led by trained peer mentors, these clubs use drama, storytelling, and discussion to unpack gender stereotypes and empower girls to speak up, stay in school, and make informed choices about their futures.
It looks like a team of university students creating anonymous reporting tools for survivors of harassment on campus, tools that led their school to set up a proper response mechanism for the first time.
It looks like a grassroots initiative where young volunteers go door to door talking to families about early child marriage, using personal stories and translated flyers to challenge harmful norms in their own communities.
It looks like youth panels demanding accountability from state officials, calling out the lack of funding for gender-based violence shelters, and proposing policy alternatives based on what survivors need.
It looks like menstrual hygiene outreach in Abuja schools, where CFHI leads education sessions, distributes reusable sanitary pads, and breaks stigma, empowering girls to manage their health with dignity and confidence.
These are not theoretical solutions. They are working solutions. Led by young people. Adapted to their context. And rooted in both lived experience and collective action.

Why It Matters
Youth are not waiting for permission. They are stepping in where systems have failed, educating where schools stay silent, advocating where laws fall short, and creating safe spaces where none existed.
This is not charity. It is justice.
At CFHI, we believe youth-led action deserves more than applause. It demands funding, policy backing, and long-term investment.
Raising voices means listening. It means resourcing. It means seeing young people not as victims of gender bias but as frontline leaders in the fight to end it.

Speak Wednesday is an initiative of CFHI to address issues around gender-based violence and gender bias.

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Gender Based Violence, Speak Wednesday / cfhinitiative

In countless Nigerian homes, young girls often called “housegirls” begin their workdays at sunrise and end them well after sundown. What seems like an innocent gateway to opportunity can quickly morph into a nightmare. What started as helping with domestic duties becomes abuse, neglect, and exploitation. This is not just work. It is a system that too often silences their voices and sabotages their futures.

The Hidden Reality

Recent research shows that in Nigeria, about 50 percent of child domestic workers experience some form of violence. Emotional abuse affects nearly half, while nine percent face physical violence, and others suffer sexual violence in silence. These girls often live in cramped, unfamiliar spaces with no personal freedom or support network. At school, they are either absent due to long work hours, the majority work over 30 hours weekly, or pulled out entirely, with 19 percent reporting disruption in education.

At its worst, this becomes modern slavery where girls are trapped by fear, threats, and the absence of choices. In parts of Southern Nigeria, studies show that underage domestic helpers regularly face psychological, emotional, and physical abuse without any form of redress.

This is not just unethical. It is a crime. Every Nigerian girl has the right to safety, freedom, and education; rights protected under Nigeria’s Violence Against Persons Prohibition (VAPP) Act of 2015. But beyond the law, we are talking about broken childhoods, girls robbed of their innocence, and women who grow up never knowing their worth.

Real Voices Real Harm

Imagine a 14-year-old working from dawn to dusk. She is beaten for small mistakes, denied food until everyone else has eaten, isolated from her peers, and barred from attending school. She wakes up to work, sleeps in fear, and grows into womanhood carrying the weight of a stolen girlhood. This is not fiction. This is her everyday reality.

What We Can Do

Recognize and Report

If you suspect abuse, contact the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons NAPTIP, Child Protection Network, CFHI, or your local police station. These girls need protection, not more silence.

Educate Families

Many parents send their daughters to work in cities with the hope of better opportunities. But without information, legal backing, and proper monitoring, what should uplift them becomes a risk. Raising community awareness is vital.

Support NGOs Doing the Work

The Centre for Family Health Initiative (CFHI) has remained at the frontline of protecting women and girls. CFHI supports victims of gender-based violence through legal aid, psychosocial support, community education, and survivor-led advocacy. From community outreaches to engaging in policy work, CFHI ensures these girls are seen, heard, and helped.

Now Is the Time to Act!

We have seen the data. We have heard the stories. Now we must act. Let us stop calling abuse employment. Let us stop reducing girls to labour tools. Every girl deserves to dream. Every girl deserves to learn. Every girl deserves a life free from violence.

Speak Wednesday is an initiative of CFHI to address issues around gender-based violence and gender bias.

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